Today’s Topic: Mixed Signals :
We’ve all replayed conversations in our heads, wondering what that lingering look meant: Is he into me… or am I reading too much into it?
In this post, I’m hoping to decode his behavior and talk it out without feeling delusional…. With this let’s get writing!
So to be completely transparent, this person is much younger than me…about 10 years to be exact! So, while an age gap isn’t necessarily the issue…i just feel dirty thinking about it!Look I’m not saying an age difference is bad, on the contrary, I don’t see anything wrong with it as long as the two people are adults…
And NO, I’m not talking about Leonardo DiCaprio situations ,dating barely legals… gag! Im talking about a Half your age, plus seven rule…
- Example: A 30 year old, the youngest ACCEPTABLE age would be 22 (30/2 + 7 = 22).
This is someone I’ve just recently started speaking to, not in romantic way, but in a we’ve been going to the same place for 3+ years and i just recently learned your name kinda way. Its honestly sad that its taken me this long to know what his name is…He comes from a kinda rough background, his birth parents aren’t the best people, so he currently lives with another family member. Here recently he and i have been in a weird limbo? there are time when we speak to each other and then completely ignore each other the next time we see each other.
I’m not particularly upset about this weird friendship but i am definitely confused about what’s happening ? Are we friends, acquaintances, is it a one sided thing, am i over thinking this?!
I feel awkward, not because I’m interested in him but because i don’t want to make any weird assumptions. I’ve noticed whenever I’m in a room, he always comes over to talk or stand beside me.
He doesn’t talk about anything specific, just random things in his life. It’s not really anything major most of the time, just about how tired he is, or that he’s started a new sport, etc. Sometimes i see him looking around and i dont want to be arrogant and assume he’s looking for me….but when we make eye contact he comes over…
A few weeks ago, a comment was made that he and i should date… I responded with “ Im not trying to go to jail” which he followed up with a rapid denial in the form of a rapid head shaking NO.
Not to mention he has/had a girlfriend during this… and he’s mentioned his girlfriend. He avoided me after that for about a week then everything went back to this weird limbo.
Which brings us to the present and he’s decided to sit beside me… something he’s never done… and i can hear what you guys are thinking… “really Quill? You thinks he’s in to you because he sat beside you… what are you 5?!?”
Maybe you guys are right in thinking i’ve been single for too long and I’m a crazy… but it just feels like he’s got a little crush, but it’s hard to tell because i don’t know how he interacts with others. As flattering as it is…i couldn’t entertain the idea because he’s so much younger…
He has a boyish charm and sometimes a little clumsy in his movements way like he’s still figuring out how his limbs work. His hair’s always a bit tousled, like he just rolled out of bed five minutes ago.
There’s an earnestness in his eyes, bright and full of curiosity, like a golden retriever who’s just discovered something cool! He’s the kind of guy who tries to play it cool but always ends up doing something adorably awkward.
Bottom line… to me he is like the adorable puppy or better yet the younger brother I’ve always wanted. If I’m right with my assumption then do i say anything or do i continue to ignore it?
Well here’s my decision:
He is— interested in me but his brain hasn’t caught up with his heart yet, and heres what i mean because here’s the thing—he lights up when I talk. Not in a “polite-listening” way, but in a “wait I need to hear every word you say” kind of way. He always keeps eye contact and fidgets when we’re close. He finds reasons to linger, even if the conversation’s over.
He doesn’t flirt on purpose. That’s the wild part. It’s not a game. It’s in the way he accidentally mirrors my movements,
So no, I haven’t just been single too long. I’m not imagining it. I think he feels it—he just hasn’t named it yet.
It’s subconscious, simmering quietly beneath his jokes and half-smiles.
He’s into me.
His heart knows…His head’s just hasn’t caught up yet!
Thanks for sticking around and i look forward to my next post!
-Quill
“I read to wander, to wonder, and to find the kind of magic that purrs softly between the lines.”
